The Lie about Humility That Keeps You Stuck | Episode #052

Men often believe humility means thinking less of themselves.

But what if that belief is actually keeping you stuck?

In this episode, Craig unpacks one of the most common—and damaging—misunderstandings in the Christian life: the idea that humility is thinking lowly of yourself.

He shows why that definition isn’t just incomplete… it’s wrong.

And more importantly, he reveals what true humility actually is:

👉 Seeing yourself the way God sees you.

If you’ve ever struggled with self-doubt…
 If you’ve ever felt like you’re “not enough”…
 If you’ve ever held back because of how you see yourself…

This episode will help you replace shame with truth—and step into the life God created you to live.

You’ll learn:

•  Why “thinking lowly of yourself” isn’t humility 
•  The difference between false humility and true humility 
•  What it means to be God’s masterpiece 
•  How to hold both a high and honest view of yourself 
•  A simple way to start living from your true identity today 

You are not becoming a masterpiece.

You already are one.

Now it’s time to see it… and live it.

Time stamp

00:00 What if humility isn't what you were taught?

00:57 How most get it wrong.

01:46 What it really is.

02:14 The eternal perspective

03:05 The current perspective

03:42 The voice of shame

04:09 This changes everything

04:46 The puzzle and box anaology

06:10 Final take away

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Transcript

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What if the way you think about humility is actually keeping you stuck in the very thing you want to avoid? Pride. In this episode, I want to flip your understanding of humility. I want to show you what it really is so you can live the life that God actually blesses. The scripture says God resists the proud, but he gives grace to the humble. So we can't afford to get this one wrong. And I know I spent years chasing the wrong definition of humility, and it quietly kept me stuck. And we all know that pride is bad and that humility is good, but here's the problem. If you get this definition wrong of humility, you will fake humility while hiding your pride. Now, most of us have been taught that humility means thinking lowly of yourself. And it isn't just about being modest, it's really about undervaluing who you are. It's thinking like, I'm not important. Others are better than I am. You tell yourself, you know, stay behind the scenes or stay in your lane. If you think highly of yourself, that's pride. That definition, though, to me, honestly, it doesn't even leave room for you to like yourself. Who wants to be this lowly creature? And it's not humble to dismiss your God-given design. It's not humble to downplay your gifts, to hesitate, to step into influence, or to avoid risk or responsibility. That's just a complete misunderstanding. And it's not just incomplete, it's just wrong. Humility really, this is it, it's seeing yourself from God's perspective. Not lower than you are, not higher than you are, but exactly as God says you are. That's true humility. So you will have a high view of yourself and a true view of yourself when you become humble. Humility requires you to see yourself from really two perspectives. And this, I think this is what's going to help. First, you see yourself from an eternal perspective. You are God's masterpiece. You're not an accident, you're not a mistake, you're not a screw-up, you're not even ordinary. Who's ever seen an ordinary masterpiece? The word masterpiece comes from the Greek word poema. It's where we get our English word poem. Like a master poet, God crafted every detail intentionally, every line was placed there on purpose. That's how God made you. And yeah, you came in the world, you were broken, but God didn't discard you. No, the scripture says that he restored you. He made you anew in Christ. Not to be someone different, someone you never were, but to be who you always were in his eyes. So how can you think little of yourself and call yourself a masterpiece? Well, you can't. Not and walk in the truth. So first you have an eternal perspective, but then you have to have a second view, and this is called the current. This is what I would call the current perspective. God sees you as you are today. He's not blind. I'm not asking you to be blind. He just doesn't condemn you in that state. The scripture says there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. God doesn't say, oh, look at you. You think you're a masterpiece. No, he says, lean into me, and I'll help you become everything that I created you to be, all that I see that you are. Here's what happens. We know God's truth. But then the voice of shame, it starts speaking into our ears. Oh, yeah, right. You're a masterpiece. Ha! It reminds you of your past. It reminds you of your failures, your weaknesses. I mean, it sees who you are when no one's looking and it calls it out. And what happens? In those moments, instead of looking at ourselves through God's grace, we start looking at the mass. All the pieces. I'm going to show you how to change everything. You hold on to both views. You are a masterpiece. Okay, you've got things going on in your life. You grab a hold of that eternal view of yourself. That's who you are. It's not who you are to become, that's who you are. Don't let go of it. Write it down. Put it where you'll see it. Post it on your refrigerator, on your bathroom mirror. Put it on your dash or your sun visor. Tape it to the inside of your toolbox lid. Frame it. Put it on your office wall. Just somewhere where you can embrace this current view of yourself and hold on to it without condemnation. That's the second step. Embrace who you are, your current view without condemnation. This is where you're growing. You work on it daily. Think of your life like a puzzle. The picture on a box, that's who God says you are. The pieces that your life experiences, your struggles, your failures. I have a client who suffered horrendous physical abuse as a child. It was my joy to tell him that his abuse, even that, it's a piece of the puzzle that God has redeemed for good. Early on, I know this is true for most, what's for me. When you begin putting the pieces together, it's hard to see how everything fits. So start with what does fit, like the corners on a puzzle, like those with all the same color. And how do you do it? You take God for His Word. You are His masterpiece. He created you anew in Christ Jesus. Those are the corners. Then you start building on it, start looking at the things that you like to do, doing those little things, winning over the things that you don't like. And when you see yourself and you look like a mess, just know that the picture is real. All the pieces are in the box. Nothing's missing, nothing's there that shouldn't be. Even the painful pieces, the broken pieces, they all fit. You're not becoming a masterpiece. You already are this masterpiece. And what will this right understanding do for you? And you get humility right? This is what it did for me. It destroyed this low, undesirable view that I didn't even like of myself. It gave me a really high and a true view of who I am. Courage began to rise, hope soared, self-doubt began to disappear. Insecurity, it vanished. Comparing, it just became a thing of the past. And here's what I love. It ignited a new motivation for godliness. Not to become a good person or even a better version of who I am. No, but to become everything God sees and he believes about me. Hold on to the true view of you, this really high view. And to start putting the pieces together. Because God loves you. You belong to Him. He believes in you and He's for you. I hope you enjoyed this talk today. If it did, uh consider sharing it with a friend who would love hearing this as well. Uh, I hope you'll give me a review sometime, a five star rating. Tell people that you really like this podcast. And until next time, may the Lord help you to live that life that He created you to love.